I really like google+ these days, the flexibility, to share what you want with the people you want. The fact that picts from my camera just magically appear there without any effort. Several of my posts have turned into the equivalent of blog posts and my brother pointed out to me yesterday... that only a small handful of people really follow google+. So in the next few months I'll probably be trying out my blog a bit more.. which can be fed into both FB and google+. Picts of the kids, videos and stuff I'll still be only posting in google+... of course I keep up with whats going on in FB not sure how much I'll post my own stuff there.... we'll see who knows.
So right now my reality is that I'm a working Momma trying to make the most of everyday. I am no superwoman, I don't claim to be able to do it all. So I thought well... lets take this blog in that direction and see if I can keep up with it. I love the name of my blog Prachi's paper trails... so I have no intention of changing it ... but right now I'm gonna take it in the direction of "Chronicles of a Working Mom".. here goes....
One of the biggest inspirations for me right now is this book
Now I have to admit ... I haven't finished reading the book... ***I can hear my brother grumbling... there are several books I have wanted to read that I haven't... Game of Thrones... the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. I love to read but just can't do it right now... but I digress this is another topic for another time*** I've gotten through most of the book. This book resonates so much with me... its for women who have a career (one which generally takes over your life) and tried to have kids.
My new catchphrase is "Redefine what it means to be successful".
Thats a hard concept, career ladders always go in one direction, up. Women shouldn't feel they have to follow those ladders. In my mind success is having drawn clear lines in the sand between kids and work and being able to consistently keep to them. Success for me does not mean that I make senior director before the age of 45. The problem with making your own definition of success is that you have to really define this for yourself... people around you may not get it. You have to know what it is that is important to you and on a piece of paper that sounds good but in practice its hard.
While the work force has come a long way in this country this is a new territory for those careers where... your career is your life. People in the circles where I work for the most part go with the .... work hard... get a promotion as there definition of success. There are those that started years after me in my company that have received promotions above my current status. I am aware of that but there's a great quote from The Desiderata "the If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter". My children will not care if I was a director or if I made more money... they will care that I took the time to be party mom for their school halloween party... that I let them sleep in when they had a rough night. I don't regret requests I made at work in the interest of work life balance... not all of them were accepted and thats fine...theres been giving and taking. But we've made it work... but its something that I have to continue to work at... because work is a dynamic place and so is home... the needs of both are changing and its something that you always have to work at. I've realized that.
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